“It’s about time to take the next step and make people comfortable about their sexual desires. We need to evolve our social acceptance.”
This is the mission statement that reads across the website of the new app: 3nder (pronounced: “threender”). The goal is to help couples who are looking to spice up their love life, find their ideal threesome match, while it gives singles that are looking for multiple partners, instead of one, find the most optimal packaged deal. The app hopes to smooth and make the process of finding that third party a little easier, as outlined in their tagline: “threesomes made easy”, while attempting to eradicate the stigma surrounding threesomes and group sex experiences in the process.
Developed by London-based entrepreneur, Dimo Trifonov, the app (still currently in beta phase) has been met with a wave of hesitation. Which is not surprising, considering threesomes are generally a very private act that take place between people that know each other and are already comfortable around one another. So now, enter random people all getting together through an app on their phone to participate in one of the most sexually adventurous acts of all. Doesn’t exactly sound like a winning formula, does it?
Much like the apps before it, Tinder and Grindr, the app is location-based and uses GPS tracking to find matches close to you in the area. So if you and your significant other are out trolling the neighbourhood, looking for a random to throw into the bed with you, all you have to do is open your phone and see if anyone interesting pops up.
To get started on the app is extremely simple, you just select whether you’re joining as a couple, or as a single, and list the ideal qualities you’re looking for in a threesome match (I can only imagine what these might be). From there it works the same as Tinder, you select those that you like, and only those who selected your photo as well will show up in your matches. Also, for those who want to operate the app under the radar (which will probably be most) you can select the “incognito” mode to avoid being seen by friends and family.
It’s still way too early to tell how successful an app this risky will be. It’s hard to imagine how it will ever make money, or even catch on and become popular with the masses. Even though times are changing and we’re becoming more sexually progressive and liberated as a society, threesomes still aren’t exactly mainstream behaviour. It’s easier to spot all the potential safety hazards (both sexual and physical) with something so “out there”, than it is to see the potential benefits.
